Healing Through Forgiveness - Letting Go of the Pastby: Mother Joy
Life can often resemble a gift wrapped package that looks very well put together on the outside, while the “inside” is a shattered and broken mess. This may be due to damage done in early childhood that one has not yet forgiven, although subconsciously forgotten.
Isn't it time let go of your painful past and rework the destructive patterns of your life? When we love others unconditionally, we begin to put into place and practice steps to help us to live as victors rather than victims in life.
I have used the following steps to increase both my business and professional life while overcoming issues of the past.
Step 1: Prayer. I pray for those who have hurt or abused me. I have also learned it is very difficult to hate someone that you are praying for.
Step 2: Counsel. I reached out and received help when I realized I needed it. As a result, I have been able to use the blessings I received in my counseling experience to bless others.
Step 3: Confront. At the proper time, I went to those who cause me harm (either emotionally or physically) individually and confronted them letting them know how they had affected my life. We must learn to confront the people in our lives that have hurt us.
Step 4: Release. Once I confronted my past and my pain, I then had to learn to let it go.
Step 5: Forgive. Forgiving is a big step in the healing process. We must also face whether we have “pardoned” someone with complete forgiveness or “paroled” them, where the forgiveness has conditions.
Step 6: Attitude. You must have an attitude of gratitude for the good things in your life while you are going through the healing process. Do not concentrate on the negatives. It’s very difficult to be depressed when you are counting your blessings.
Step 7: Joy. It is a personal lifestyle decision to live a joyful life both inside and out, in spite of circumstances around you.
Step 8: Goals. You must write down what you want to accomplish. If you don’t it will just be a dream. No one plans to fail, they just fail to plan.
Step 9: Give. No matter where you are in life, there’s always someone that could use your help. Reach out and help someone with your time and or resources. A few ideas: Visit nursing homes and read to the elderly, pray with the sick at your local hospital, volunteer to serve meals at your local soup kitchen, donate food/clothing to your local homeless shelter, become a mentor.
Step 10: Live Life Now. Don’t wait until tomorrow because tomorrow is not promised to you. And, besides, tomorrow never comes!
It is my firm belief that if we make up our minds that we are not going to let the past control our future, we can learn to break down the walls of hurt and pain that hinder us from forgiving others and living fulfilled lives personally and professionally. Holding on to pain and hatred causes anger and bitterness. Anger and bitterness cause stress and anxiety, these emotions can cause a variety of other health problems. I know that it is possible to embrace happiness, experience joy, and have success. The choice is truly up to you.
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